Choosing the right person for you
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” Agnes Repplier
When starting a relationship how you feel about yourself is so important. I would say it’s the most important part of how you find your happiness with someone else in a relationship.
Where you are in your evolution is a strong influence when you are choosing a person to spend time with.
You are always good enough. The thought that you are not good enough should never be an issue. The challenge is to be aware of who you are and what you need at the time. This of course changes in the course of your life.
Who you choose as a partner may be a reflection of where you are emotionally, spiritualy or physically but that is just an indication of the direction you’ve taken nothing more.
If you choose to move in a different direction, that is always in your control. You need to recognize how external influences affect you.
The secret to a happy ending in love begins with identifying with and recognizing who you really are.
I remember a famous line in one of my favorite classics, When Harry Met Sally. The character Harry says “There are two kinds of women: high maintenance and low maintenance. Sally asks “Which one am I?” Harry Says “your the worst kind. You’re high maintenance but you think your low maintenance.”
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