B big baby
How cute they are.
Babies are adorable unless your dating one. In The Good Enough Lover the baby is described as “Are you my mother?” and “Mother and father,”
This person does not want to be responsible for him or herself. This person is looking for a mother or father figure to guide them. They not only feel that they need someone to tell them where to work,what to do, how to spend their money etc. they like it. They seek out one who “will take care of everything.” This makes life easy for them. They don’t concern themselves with how much work this gives you. They eventually revert back to infant giving up all responsibility to their partner. This makes them irresponsible, unpredictable and whether or not you wanted children you have one now.
The parent; This is the parent in this relationship. This person looks for someone that they can rule. They don’t want to be with someone that can think for themselves, it makes them feel unwanted or not needed. They take charge and never give it back. They control the money, time and dynamics of the relationship.
Do either of these characteristics sound familiar? Are you the parent or the child?
There are probably deep seated reasons as to why a grown up would want to be involved in this type of relationship. If the answer eludes you this may be a good time to consult a professional.
Most of us are familiar with Norman Bates and how his parental obsession manifested itself. We don’t want it to get that bad.
Being an adult is not always fun. There are benefits of course, such as: you controlling what you eat and having unchaperoned sleep overs but paying bills having and keeping a job and maintaining a place to live can be a bummer. This makes being a baby kind of reasonable. If your “parent” in the relationship is taking care of all your serious challenges like money why grow up? The “parent” also has some advantages. They own you baby. You can’t even get a soda without asking. How this is a turn on baffles me.
For a man the pro’s to being a baby are possibly: no job, no cleaning up after your self, no bills, no cooking etc. The con’s: No money, no money being at the complete mercy of a control freak.
For women the pro’s: no job, no bills, an allowance (you probably have to still cook and clean sorry) The con’s: They own you baby in every sense of the word.
There are definite problems with any scenario where you give up control of yourself or life to another person. Get to the root of what it is you desire in this life and if you need a parent go home to your actual parents. If this is not possible then find a friend or relative that can guide you to adulthood. Rarely can happiness be achieved when there is someone else holding the reins. If you are the child the parent will not let you grow for fear that they will lose you. If you are the adult the child will never stop depending on you ever. Being tied to another person rather that in a relationship with mutual love, respect and free will is the fulfillment we should be seeking.